"Ain't It Fun?"

Life is tough you guys. T-O-U-G-H.

I think that sometimes we are so eager to grow up and we have this idea of what the “real world” is going to be- you know, the one without curfews and chores. The independence and sense of freedom that we all anxiously await seems so sweet. I admit I am a culprit of this. Moving away for college seemed like the ultimate sign of freedom, that is until it actually happened. I don’t want to seem melodramatic, but it is a big change that took me a while to get accustomed to.  The same goes for graduating college! Change is scary and reality more often than not turns out differently from what you imagined, but that's okay.

For Millennials, there is this notion that we expect things to happen magically. I for one, do not agree. Do I think our generation is composed of dreamers? Yes. We have grown up in a world filled with positive reinforcement. Scenarios which include questions like "What do you want to be when you grow up? What are you passionate about?" and statements like "Do what makes you happy". Millennials, like myself, have  been encouraged to do what they feel and that has led to individuals challenging themselves to find their place in the world.     

This is what Paramore’s new song “Ain’t it Fun” embraces (in my humble opinion). Paramore’s “Aint it Fun” definitely hits home. It could actually be the Millennial’s anthem and I can totally relate. When you go through multiple changes all at once life can get a little intimidating; you might be moving out of the home you lived in all your life to be on your own, your circle of friends may be getting smaller, you might be starting college or a new job. Whatever the situation, new experiences can always feel overwhelming because they’re new.

The truth is life is too short to constantly worry. Things change because they help you grow. I've learned to think positive and embrace what life has in store for me. It's definitely easier said than done! But it's possible.  Let’s just all take a deep breath and go with the flow.

Love, Love, Love.

On a recent girls night out with my besties we started discussing modern ways of dating and the topic of reality shows and dating sites came up.

I must admit I am truly a hopeless romantic and I am sucker for anything that allows me to see love unfold. I have even given in and discovered the entertainment that is The Bachelor/ The Bachelorette. I'm a little surprised actually. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that my friends are coupling up, getting engaged and all that good stuff that happens when you know, you become an adult.

I wonder though, how do these reality/dating shows work? How do you even decide that the best way for you to find your one true love is with the world looking at your love story unfold? Also, how are the men and women on these shows selected? Like, do they compare likes and dislikes and what their looking for in a potential partner? Do they do background checks or do they just spin a wheel and pick? And finally how do these, for lack of a better word, contestants, decide that this one person is possibly the love their life in such a short amount of time?

I guess the cynic in me takes over sometimes. Take The Bachelor/ Bachelorette for example; The way I see it, The Bachelor is a competition. What are you competing for? Love? I just don’t completely understand this concept.

I’d be a really uncomfortable Bachelorette to be honest. First of all, all those hugs and first greetings are just too much for me. How does a Bachelorette keep all these guys in order? The idea of awkward first dates comes to mind, except it happens 25 times. Not to mention, the gut wrenching rose ceremonies! I’m a loving person and would hate to send anyone home. (Roses for Everybody!)

It’s no surprise that dating shows are so endearing. You have regular people on TV ultimately looking for one thing-LOVE! You never know what may happen along their journey and the fact that we see all of this unfold makes it that much more interesting.

All I know is that it’s refreshing to know that the idea of love is still alive in this day and age. Media has definitely changed the way we connect and look for it, but it still exists. Men and women alike are still seeking out a partner to spend the rest of their lovely lives with and that is definitely something I support. Love for everybody! 

One way or Another.

“Wherever you go in life, however fast you’re going, remember this: When you’re in doubt, pause. Take a moment look at all of your options, check your intention, have a conversation with your heart. And then always take the high road.”

Life gets hectic at one point or another. It's crazy, stressful, and exciting all at once. Never let a bad day or bad moment keep you from moving forward. Take pride in your path and take pride in who you are. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to do what you love.