Music, I love you.

I have recently been introduced to the term “self-care” and let me tell you, it is definitely something I needed in my life. Doing everything on my day to day to-do list can be stressful at times, as I imagine it can be for others. Sometimes the hardest thing for me to do is take a step back, read a good book, do some yoga and just unwind. I am convinced that there is something in my DNA that prevents me from saying “no”- whether its work related or family related I feel inclined to help.

One thing I’ve learned in my journey to self-care is that it is OK to say no sometimes. I have to take care of myself to be a better resource and complete my tasks well. Having little time and what seems like a million things to do, I have found that any time I have to unwind is well spent with a little set of tunes.

Music has always been an important part of my life. No I’m not an amazing singer or anything (unless I’m singing my heart out in my car or the shower) but I love the meaning that music brings. Anything and everything I feel can be transmitted through a song. Certain songs remind me of specific people, events, and even lessons and I find that amazing.

When I feel like I am overwhelmed, without fail listening to my favorite jams is a quick way to clear my head, take some “me” time and go on with my day. Just like memories, music can take me back to my life lessons whether they were about dealing with heartbreak, depression, angst, genuine happiness, and of course love-especially love. And then there are songs that give me hope and the sense that everything will be right with the world eventually; Songs that have me feeling like I can take over the world because, well, I am me.

What is it that you do for self-care? 

Love, Love, Love.

On a recent girls night out with my besties we started discussing modern ways of dating and the topic of reality shows and dating sites came up.

I must admit I am truly a hopeless romantic and I am sucker for anything that allows me to see love unfold. I have even given in and discovered the entertainment that is The Bachelor/ The Bachelorette. I'm a little surprised actually. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that my friends are coupling up, getting engaged and all that good stuff that happens when you know, you become an adult.

I wonder though, how do these reality/dating shows work? How do you even decide that the best way for you to find your one true love is with the world looking at your love story unfold? Also, how are the men and women on these shows selected? Like, do they compare likes and dislikes and what their looking for in a potential partner? Do they do background checks or do they just spin a wheel and pick? And finally how do these, for lack of a better word, contestants, decide that this one person is possibly the love their life in such a short amount of time?

I guess the cynic in me takes over sometimes. Take The Bachelor/ Bachelorette for example; The way I see it, The Bachelor is a competition. What are you competing for? Love? I just don’t completely understand this concept.

I’d be a really uncomfortable Bachelorette to be honest. First of all, all those hugs and first greetings are just too much for me. How does a Bachelorette keep all these guys in order? The idea of awkward first dates comes to mind, except it happens 25 times. Not to mention, the gut wrenching rose ceremonies! I’m a loving person and would hate to send anyone home. (Roses for Everybody!)

It’s no surprise that dating shows are so endearing. You have regular people on TV ultimately looking for one thing-LOVE! You never know what may happen along their journey and the fact that we see all of this unfold makes it that much more interesting.

All I know is that it’s refreshing to know that the idea of love is still alive in this day and age. Media has definitely changed the way we connect and look for it, but it still exists. Men and women alike are still seeking out a partner to spend the rest of their lovely lives with and that is definitely something I support. Love for everybody!